Coming Together

There’s nothing in this world like coming together with loved ones- to share thoughts, ideas, laughter, and memories. Since Friday my daily life has been filled with long talks about spirituality, love, miracles, and mysteries. The walls have echoed with laughter. There have been grown-up tea parties during which we explored ideas about healing our bodies with nutrition and the help of our guides and the Angels.

This has been the kind of weekend that I’d like to have more often. Spent sharing everything from triumphs to tears with people who you know that you can trust and who are there for no reason other than that there is shared love. While the weekend is still going for me, I had to share a little about what’s going on here. Things will be winding down tomorrow, and I’ll share more about this magical time later this week.

My biggest hope is that I’ll remember all of the beautiful moments and the thoughts of late night brainstorming sessions. You can’t imagine how much ground we’ve covered in just a few days and how powerful this time has been. I find myself wishing that I’d been taking notes or something in order to get it all down. For now, I’m going to close and enjoy the rest of this experience.

Wishing you peace, love, and beautiful heart warming memories that you can store away to savor always.

 

5 Ways That Departed Loved Ones Communicate With Us

Most of us have had a feeling that someone who we love who has passed was trying to reach us at one point or another. While things like this have become more widely accepted than in the past by many, there is still a lot of uncertainty and even fear around contact from the other side. As someone who has been able to sense, hear and often see people who have passed since I was a young child I have had plenty of time to wrap my head around the idea and learn to let go of my early fears and uncertainty.

For those of you who have wondered if what felt like the presence of a loved one was real or in your imagination, I’m going to share a list of some of the most common ways that they reach out to us. Of course there are more than I’ll be sharing here, but hopefully these will help you to gain a better understanding and a little more confidence and ease when you feel that this is happening.

  1. Getting a whiff of a familiar scent with no other explanation for it being around. This can be in the form of a favorite cologne or perfume, cigarettes or cigars, breath mints or gum, or favorite flowers. The key is that these aromas are ones which are closely associated with a particular person. For example, my mother will reach out to me by letting me smell her favorite perfume and now, my father shows up with the scent of the gum that he always chewed on Sunday mornings on the way to church.
  2. Pennies or coins. Many of you have likely heard of pennies from heaven, and I’m here to tell you that this one is true. In the year that my mother passed away, I found three pennies, on separate occasions, in the middle of my bedroom floor with her birth year on them. The first one that I found blew my socks off, then pennies two and three while still amazing, served as more of a source of comfort than anything else. One of them was particularly comforting. I was going through a relationship breakup and was very upset. I’d been crying and went to grab more tissues, and there in my path was one of “her” pennies. While it was always better to have her there to give me one of her awesome hugs when something like this happened, it was wonderful to know that she was still there for me.
  3. Hearing their favorite song. Sometimes, a departed loved one will inform you of their presence through music. If you ever hear their favorite song just as you’re thinking of them chances are good that they are saying hello. Other times, you will hear their favorite song over and over everywhere you go. You’ll hear it at home as you get ready to go out, then you’ll hear it on in the car and then again over the system in the grocery store or restaurant. I like to think of this as their way of letting us know that they still keep tabs on our lives and what we do.
  4. Electronics acting up. People on the other side have the ability to use electronics as a way of letting us know that they’re around. Some examples of this are TV’s turning themselves off or on, lights flickering and phone messages. That last one can be a little disconcerting. About a year after my mom passed, my cell phone kept ringing but no number was coming up on the caller ID. As I’m not in the habit of answering calls like this, I tried to ignore it but it kept ringing. I noticed a voicemail had come in but before I could check it, the phone rang again. Annoyed, I answered it only to be greeted by broken static like an old radio that wasn’t quite tuned in right. Later, I checked the voicemail. To my amazement there was the broken static, but also my mother’s voice saying my name and then “it’s me”. I was able to play this message to another person before it was deleted from the phone.
  5. Physical sensations. This one can also be a little disconcerting when it happens, at least at first. Sometimes when you are thinking of your loved one and really missing them, it can feel as though someone has brushed their hand on your cheek or even given you a hug. More commonly, you may notice a change in the temperature in the air or feel the hairs on the back of your neck respond as they would when you get the feeling of being watched. If you feel uncomfortable with this one, especially at first, you are not alone. The first several times something like this happened to me, I was more than a little freaked out.

Over time, you will learn how to interpret occurrences like this and hopefully feel more comfortable with them. If you feel as though you might have the ability to communicate with those on the other side and could use a little help learning how to work with it, please send an email to pixiebaby1972@gmail.com and we can discuss whether I might be able to help you.

If you’ve had experiences that you’d like to share, feel free to leave a comment. I love hearing your stories!

What’s The First Step In Helping Others?

There are a lot of people out there, myself included, who feel called to help others. Speaking from experience, as well as countless conversations with others who have a similar calling, there is a pretty high incidence of what can only be called burn out or self depletion which happens-especially in the early days of doing the work. Anyone who has ever flown will remember being told that the first step to take in the event of an emergency is to put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to help anyone else.

For some reason, while it makes sense to just about anyone that the advice is sound for those flying in an airplane, there seems to be a stigma around tending to self first in any other arena-especially when it comes to spiritual practitioners, healers or when it comes to doing any kind of service work. It doesn’t matter whether you’re flying, helping others spiritually, working as a healer or even in your personal relationships with others-if you aren’t caring for and tending to yourself, your efforts with others will not go as smoothly as they could. Not only that, but you will be setting the stage for exhaustion and even physical illness.

While this is true for everyone, those who have high levels of sensitivity and empathy should be especially vigilant about holding space for themselves on a regular basis. There will be people who will attempt to induce guilt, because they will feel as though they aren’t getting what it is that they need from you when they need it. Plus, chances are good that you’ve spent a lot of your life not tending to your own needs and when you change that, there will be some who will resent it. As with all things, we have to use discernment. There are always exceptions, such as when someone is in a true crisis or has a real emergency. As long as self-care and development are a regular part of our routine, the rest typically falls into place.

As time goes by, many begin to recognize that caring for ourselves and caring for others are not exclusive of one another. Culturally, there is a lot of training which takes place that tells us that we are selfish for tending to our own needs and even pleasures. The interesting thing which I have observed over the years is that it is often the ones which preach this concept of selfishness the most who look out for themselves the most. By getting others to do things on their schedule and according to their desires, they free up a lot of time to do what they want to do.

The important thing to remember is that not only is making sure that you are okay not selfish, it is the first step in being able to effectively help others. Not only that, it will ensure that we are not using service to others as a reason to avoid things that may not be all that easy to resolve within ourselves and in our own lives. As time goes by, caring for yourself gets easier as you begin to see the difference in the two ways of living. Not only will you feel better, but you will see that your ability to help others increases as you help yourself. The hardest part is giving yourself permission to let go of the feelings of guilt long enough to get started.

I’d like to leave you with one last thing to think about, to put this in perspective for those who really struggle with thinking about themselves or putting themselves first.

When you neglect yourself, how do you think that impacts the people in your life who truly love you and have your best interests at heart?

 

 

Tarot for the Week of April 3-9, 2016

This week’s cards are from the Mystic Faerie Tarot by Barbara Moore and artist Linda Ravenscroft.

The first card is the Four of Swords:

Four of Swords

The Four of Swords indicates that you might be starting your week feeling overwhelmed by a life situation. Mental exhaustion isn’t conducive to effectively handling things. Take a break from it and rest. You can guarantee that whatever it is will still be there waiting for you when you come back to it refreshed. Who knows you may even have an epiphany as you sleep.

The second card is the Knight of Wands:

Knight of Wands

The image on the Knight of Wands card shows a strong and determined looking warrior. She is waiting for a task to be given to her. She is so poised and ready that it is apparent that she won’t be kept waiting for long.

The third card is the Priestess:

The Priestess

The Priestess charges us of the task of figuring out what we value the most. The answers that we seek can be found by completely immersing ourselves in those things that we value. As you can see by the image, the Priestess is planted firmly, yet calmly and peacefully in her spot, waiting for clarity. Connect with what matters to you in the ways that work for you, whether through meditation, prayer, sitting at your altar, spending time in nature, hanging out with your family-the choice is yours.

Interpretation:

The early part of this week might find you feeling taxed by a situation that you’ve been dealing with for a while and feel as though you haven’t the energy to deal with it any longer. For the time being, don’t. Step away from it so that the tension and confusion around it can give way to finding a solution later.

The Knight of Wands has shown up to show you that you’re ready for an important task of some kind. The Priestess coming in behind her indicates what the task is, and I love this. Oftentimes, we’ll have a feeling or be given a message such as having an important task, then have to figure out what it means. Not so this week.

The task being handed to us is to steep ourselves in the things that matter to us most. The Priestess is wise and has a deep connection to herself and the world. The connections are so deep that the lines which normally separate a person from the different aspects of self as well as the rest of all that is begin to fade. Take the time to settle in and deeply integrate all of these things by immersing yourself as fully as you can in the things that matter to you deeply. Listen closely later in the week, because the answers and wisdom you’ve been seeking will naturally begin to flow.

Tarot for the Week ~ March 27 – April 2, 2016

The reading is a little late this week. Next week’s should be back to it’s normal time of very early morning on Sunday.

The cards this week are from the Mystic Faerie Tarot by Barbara Moore and artist Linda Ravenscroft.

The first card is the Knave of Swords:

Knave of Swords

The Knave of Swords represents an intelligent and confident person who tends to act on things quickly, without feeling the need to overthink or have an expert grasp of their undertakings. This card can also represent a message about your current circumstances.

The second card is The World:

The World

The World represents the completion or near completion of an important task. Take your time in savoring the moment. When we take on and finish something that matters to us, the feeling is precious so do not be in a major rush to move on to the next task. If this is not representative of you, and you haven’t come to the end of a major undertaking, it is time to begin thinking about things you’d like to accomplish.

The third card is the Ace of Wands:

Ace of Wands

This card signals the need to start something new. It does not mean that you are quite ready to jump right in. The Ace of Wands is about gaining a clear vision of your goal and making sure that you are ready to pursue it mentally and physically. Think of this as the planning stage.

Interpretation:

Each card in this reading speaks of important tasks and reaching goals. For some, there has been a recent milestone which deserves a little time for savoring the moment and satisfaction before jumping into planning your next great adventure. Be sure to take a small pause to appreciate your accomplishment.

All of us however, are urged this week to put some thought into what we desire to accomplish next. Once the vision is clear, take time to figure out how to pursue your goal. Can you do it alone? Will you need help? Is it something which you are truly passionate about?

This is the time to plan your strategy and be sure that you are ready to make something happen. If you have a tendency to dive into things impulsively, you may wish to do things a little differently this time around and take some time preparing. Next week will be soon enough to begin setting your plans into motion.

 

Tarot for the Week of March 20 – 26, 2016

The cards this week are from the Mystic Faerie Tarot by Barbara Moore and artist Linda Ravenscroft.

The first card is the Ten of Cups:

Ten of Cups

You can see the look of peace and happiness on the faces of the faeries on this card. If you find yourself feeling similar, be sure to be thankful for it. If you aren’t yet in this position, understand that a life of peace and contentment takes effort on the part of those seeking it. Many of us sometimes feel as though there are some people to whom this just comes and feel resentful, envious, or self pity. While it does just happen on very rare occasions, most often it comes as a result of work and careful tending on the part of the one to whom it comes.

The second card is Judgement:

Judgement

This card is a signal that the time has come to closely look at our lives and consider our direction. It lets us know that there is something that we should be doing which would be very different than what we are doing currently. Whatever it is would not only make a difference in our own lives, but in that of the world around us. This is an opportunity for great spiritual growth. While the name of this card is Judgement, it isn’t to be taken as a message that you aren’t good enough. It is an invitation to let the ego drop a bit and truly listen for the guidance which is being lovingly given to you.

The third card is The Empress:

The Empress

You may find yourself receiving an answer that you’ve been seeking, and it may not exactly be the one you were hoping for. At first, the answer may seem to be almost impossible or perhaps damaging. Sometimes the truth doesn’t have an initial feel of ease, but it is always for our highest good. The image on this card shows an abundant scene which is full of nurturing, mother energy. Remember that part of the wisdom of the love of a mother is knowing just how much to accept or give. Sometimes it is possible to give to the detriment of the one we seek to help, including ourselves. At other times, it is possible that we accept things or do things which we know in our hearts that we shouldn’t. This can be tricky ground, because while it is important to be kind and loving-there is a difference between loving and enabling, avoiding what we know to be true, or in the worst instances allowing abuse. This is a wonderful card which reminds us that practicing love with wisdom is the best way to go, even when it may not be the most easy. It opens the way to a life which allows us to drop illusions and move into one with more genuine ease.

Interpretation:

This week should see the confusion of last week leaving. The energy of this week will be positive, especially in the big picture. I am seeing these cards coming together as a combination of a gentle view into the reality of our lives, and guidance to help us to do what needs to be done to live our most content and peaceful life. It could be very uncomfortable for some of us to move back from our egos. This is what must be done in order to see the truth and know what actions we should take. When we do this, we attain a life that fosters real love and harmony in our lives. This reading seems perfect to me as we enter Spring because it truly is an opportunity for new beginnings.  For those who are paying attention to the various energies under discussion in spiritual circles, the time really has come for us to take action in moving in what we know to be the right direction individually and collectively.

Remember one thing as you go about this week. No matter what choices are made and which actions are taken, it will have an impact. While it may cause a reaction in others, it might not be the one you had wished for. This doesn’t mean that you have done something wrong (only you know the truth here), it just means that perhaps things weren’t as you had thought or wished them to be. When you move forward in love, even when it is the type of love which isn’t easy to practice, you can’t go wrong.

Wishing you a week filled with courage and blessings ❤