Coming Together

There’s nothing in this world like coming together with loved ones- to share thoughts, ideas, laughter, and memories. Since Friday my daily life has been filled with long talks about spirituality, love, miracles, and mysteries. The walls have echoed with laughter. There have been grown-up tea parties during which we explored ideas about healing our bodies with nutrition and the help of our guides and the Angels.

This has been the kind of weekend that I’d like to have more often. Spent sharing everything from triumphs to tears with people who you know that you can trust and who are there for no reason other than that there is shared love. While the weekend is still going for me, I had to share a little about what’s going on here. Things will be winding down tomorrow, and I’ll share more about this magical time later this week.

My biggest hope is that I’ll remember all of the beautiful moments and the thoughts of late night brainstorming sessions. You can’t imagine how much ground we’ve covered in just a few days and how powerful this time has been. I find myself wishing that I’d been taking notes or something in order to get it all down. For now, I’m going to close and enjoy the rest of this experience.

Wishing you peace, love, and beautiful heart warming memories that you can store away to savor always.

 

5 Ways That Departed Loved Ones Communicate With Us

Most of us have had a feeling that someone who we love who has passed was trying to reach us at one point or another. While things like this have become more widely accepted than in the past by many, there is still a lot of uncertainty and even fear around contact from the other side. As someone who has been able to sense, hear and often see people who have passed since I was a young child I have had plenty of time to wrap my head around the idea and learn to let go of my early fears and uncertainty.

For those of you who have wondered if what felt like the presence of a loved one was real or in your imagination, I’m going to share a list of some of the most common ways that they reach out to us. Of course there are more than I’ll be sharing here, but hopefully these will help you to gain a better understanding and a little more confidence and ease when you feel that this is happening.

  1. Getting a whiff of a familiar scent with no other explanation for it being around. This can be in the form of a favorite cologne or perfume, cigarettes or cigars, breath mints or gum, or favorite flowers. The key is that these aromas are ones which are closely associated with a particular person. For example, my mother will reach out to me by letting me smell her favorite perfume and now, my father shows up with the scent of the gum that he always chewed on Sunday mornings on the way to church.
  2. Pennies or coins. Many of you have likely heard of pennies from heaven, and I’m here to tell you that this one is true. In the year that my mother passed away, I found three pennies, on separate occasions, in the middle of my bedroom floor with her birth year on them. The first one that I found blew my socks off, then pennies two and three while still amazing, served as more of a source of comfort than anything else. One of them was particularly comforting. I was going through a relationship breakup and was very upset. I’d been crying and went to grab more tissues, and there in my path was one of “her” pennies. While it was always better to have her there to give me one of her awesome hugs when something like this happened, it was wonderful to know that she was still there for me.
  3. Hearing their favorite song. Sometimes, a departed loved one will inform you of their presence through music. If you ever hear their favorite song just as you’re thinking of them chances are good that they are saying hello. Other times, you will hear their favorite song over and over everywhere you go. You’ll hear it at home as you get ready to go out, then you’ll hear it on in the car and then again over the system in the grocery store or restaurant. I like to think of this as their way of letting us know that they still keep tabs on our lives and what we do.
  4. Electronics acting up. People on the other side have the ability to use electronics as a way of letting us know that they’re around. Some examples of this are TV’s turning themselves off or on, lights flickering and phone messages. That last one can be a little disconcerting. About a year after my mom passed, my cell phone kept ringing but no number was coming up on the caller ID. As I’m not in the habit of answering calls like this, I tried to ignore it but it kept ringing. I noticed a voicemail had come in but before I could check it, the phone rang again. Annoyed, I answered it only to be greeted by broken static like an old radio that wasn’t quite tuned in right. Later, I checked the voicemail. To my amazement there was the broken static, but also my mother’s voice saying my name and then “it’s me”. I was able to play this message to another person before it was deleted from the phone.
  5. Physical sensations. This one can also be a little disconcerting when it happens, at least at first. Sometimes when you are thinking of your loved one and really missing them, it can feel as though someone has brushed their hand on your cheek or even given you a hug. More commonly, you may notice a change in the temperature in the air or feel the hairs on the back of your neck respond as they would when you get the feeling of being watched. If you feel uncomfortable with this one, especially at first, you are not alone. The first several times something like this happened to me, I was more than a little freaked out.

Over time, you will learn how to interpret occurrences like this and hopefully feel more comfortable with them. If you feel as though you might have the ability to communicate with those on the other side and could use a little help learning how to work with it, please send an email to pixiebaby1972@gmail.com and we can discuss whether I might be able to help you.

If you’ve had experiences that you’d like to share, feel free to leave a comment. I love hearing your stories!

What’s The First Step In Helping Others?

There are a lot of people out there, myself included, who feel called to help others. Speaking from experience, as well as countless conversations with others who have a similar calling, there is a pretty high incidence of what can only be called burn out or self depletion which happens-especially in the early days of doing the work. Anyone who has ever flown will remember being told that the first step to take in the event of an emergency is to put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to help anyone else.

For some reason, while it makes sense to just about anyone that the advice is sound for those flying in an airplane, there seems to be a stigma around tending to self first in any other arena-especially when it comes to spiritual practitioners, healers or when it comes to doing any kind of service work. It doesn’t matter whether you’re flying, helping others spiritually, working as a healer or even in your personal relationships with others-if you aren’t caring for and tending to yourself, your efforts with others will not go as smoothly as they could. Not only that, but you will be setting the stage for exhaustion and even physical illness.

While this is true for everyone, those who have high levels of sensitivity and empathy should be especially vigilant about holding space for themselves on a regular basis. There will be people who will attempt to induce guilt, because they will feel as though they aren’t getting what it is that they need from you when they need it. Plus, chances are good that you’ve spent a lot of your life not tending to your own needs and when you change that, there will be some who will resent it. As with all things, we have to use discernment. There are always exceptions, such as when someone is in a true crisis or has a real emergency. As long as self-care and development are a regular part of our routine, the rest typically falls into place.

As time goes by, many begin to recognize that caring for ourselves and caring for others are not exclusive of one another. Culturally, there is a lot of training which takes place that tells us that we are selfish for tending to our own needs and even pleasures. The interesting thing which I have observed over the years is that it is often the ones which preach this concept of selfishness the most who look out for themselves the most. By getting others to do things on their schedule and according to their desires, they free up a lot of time to do what they want to do.

The important thing to remember is that not only is making sure that you are okay not selfish, it is the first step in being able to effectively help others. Not only that, it will ensure that we are not using service to others as a reason to avoid things that may not be all that easy to resolve within ourselves and in our own lives. As time goes by, caring for yourself gets easier as you begin to see the difference in the two ways of living. Not only will you feel better, but you will see that your ability to help others increases as you help yourself. The hardest part is giving yourself permission to let go of the feelings of guilt long enough to get started.

I’d like to leave you with one last thing to think about, to put this in perspective for those who really struggle with thinking about themselves or putting themselves first.

When you neglect yourself, how do you think that impacts the people in your life who truly love you and have your best interests at heart?