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Most of us have had a feeling that someone who we love who has passed was trying to reach us at one point or another. While things like this have become more widely accepted than in the past by many, there is still a lot of uncertainty and even fear around contact from the other side. As someone who has been able to sense, hear and often see people who have passed since I was a young child I have had plenty of time to wrap my head around the idea and learn to let go of my early fears and uncertainty.
For those of you who have wondered if what felt like the presence of a loved one was real or in your imagination, I’m going to share a list of some of the most common ways that they reach out to us. Of course there are more than I’ll be sharing here, but hopefully these will help you to gain a better understanding and a little more confidence and ease when you feel that this is happening.
Getting a whiff of a familiar scent with no other explanation for it being around. This can be in the form of a favorite cologne or perfume, cigarettes or cigars, breath mints or gum, or favorite flowers. The key is that these aromas are ones which are closely associated with a particular person. For example, my mother will reach out to me by letting me smell her favorite perfume and now, my father shows up with the scent of the gum that he always chewed on Sunday mornings on the way to church.
Pennies or coins. Many of you have likely heard of pennies from heaven, and I’m here to tell you that this one is true. In the year that my mother passed away, I found three pennies, on separate occasions, in the middle of my bedroom floor with her birth year on them. The first one that I found blew my socks off, then pennies two and three while still amazing, served as more of a source of comfort than anything else. One of them was particularly comforting. I was going through a relationship breakup and was very upset. I’d been crying and went to grab more tissues, and there in my path was one of “her” pennies. While it was always better to have her there to give me one of her awesome hugs when something like this happened, it was wonderful to know that she was still there for me.
Hearing their favorite song. Sometimes, a departed loved one will inform you of their presence through music. If you ever hear their favorite song just as you’re thinking of them chances are good that they are saying hello. Other times, you will hear their favorite song over and over everywhere you go. You’ll hear it at home as you get ready to go out, then you’ll hear it on in the car and then again over the system in the grocery store or restaurant. I like to think of this as their way of letting us know that they still keep tabs on our lives and what we do.
Electronics acting up. People on the other side have the ability to use electronics as a way of letting us know that they’re around. Some examples of this are TV’s turning themselves off or on, lights flickering and phone messages. That last one can be a little disconcerting. About a year after my mom passed, my cell phone kept ringing but no number was coming up on the caller ID. As I’m not in the habit of answering calls like this, I tried to ignore it but it kept ringing. I noticed a voicemail had come in but before I could check it, the phone rang again. Annoyed, I answered it only to be greeted by broken static like an old radio that wasn’t quite tuned in right. Later, I checked the voicemail. To my amazement there was the broken static, but also my mother’s voice saying my name and then “it’s me”. I was able to play this message to another person before it was deleted from the phone.
Physical sensations. This one can also be a little disconcerting when it happens, at least at first. Sometimes when you are thinking of your loved one and really missing them, it can feel as though someone has brushed their hand on your cheek or even given you a hug. More commonly, you may notice a change in the temperature in the air or feel the hairs on the back of your neck respond as they would when you get the feeling of being watched. If you feel uncomfortable with this one, especially at first, you are not alone. The first several times something like this happened to me, I was more than a little freaked out.
Over time, you will learn how to interpret occurrences like this and hopefully feel more comfortable with them. If you feel as though you might have the ability to communicate with those on the other side and could use a little help learning how to work with it, please send an email to email@example.com and we can discuss whether I might be able to help you.
If you’ve had experiences that you’d like to share, feel free to leave a comment. I love hearing your stories!
When writing about this topic, I rewrote the title and first few lines many times in order to convey exactly what is on my mind. There are many of us who are very sensitive, and this makes navigating the waters of our society a little tricky at times. Below I will be making a list of what life is like for sensitives and how they can make it through life a little more comfortably. Maybe this post will even help those who have relationships with sensitives understand us better.
Sensitives pick up on cues and feelings fairly easily. Once they know that something makes another person feel bad or stressed, they will do their best to avoid doing or saying what it is that causes the other person discomfort. This is one of the reasons why people like talking with us so much. It is okay to let go of guilt when you need to withdraw from some people who continue to engage in certain things despite repeated attempts at asking them to stop. In addition, it is okay to take a stand and/or to withdraw when someone tries to make you feel bad for asking for what you need or for voicing your feelings. It doesn’t make you less loving when you practice self-care and preservation.
Sensitives care about those they love very deeply. They literally feel the pain of those that matter to them, making them feel terrible when there is nothing that they can do to help. When their friend suffers heartbreak, the sensitive feels it right along with them. When someone they care about is going through a rough spot, the sensitive feels the stress right along with them. Often, a sensitive person will not ask for help because they do not wish to cause stress for the people they care about. When a sensitive is asked for help by someone who they care about, it is painful for them to have to deny the request. Often, a sensitive will try to explain how much they hate it that they cannot help and ask for understanding. When this understanding isn’t given, the sensitive becomes stressed to the max and experiences pain that the person doesn’t seem to be respectful of them. This can sometimes lead to the sensitive needing to withdraw, because the amount of stress and heartache takes a physical toll.
Sensitives can come across as indecisive due to the amount of time it takes to make a decision. When someone with a lesser degree of sensitivity is asked what they would like to do, they are often much quicker at answering. It isn’t that a sensitive is trying to be difficult by taking longer. It is that they are picking up on subtle cues and attempting to figure out which option would make everyone involved the happiest. When a less sensitive person gets annoyed with them for how long it is taking, the sensitive will often shut down because they feel badly that their attempt to make sure everyone was happy made someone upset. Sensitives will need to toy around with ways which will lessen the amount of time it takes to decide while still letting them feel good about their choices. In addition, they should understand that there is nothing wrong with the way that they are, and that they shouldn’t be subjected to mean-spirited ridicule or unkindness.
Sensitives tend to be intuitive and compassionate. This often leads to others desiring to speak with their sensitive friends about their problems. At the same time, the sensitive can get burned out because of the depth and intensity of their feelings. Not only that, but people get so accustomed to speaking with the sensitive about their difficulties that relationships can slide into unhealthy patterns. There are people out there who will take advantage of the sensitive because they feel the need to have attention. This leads to the sensitive always being the listener or rescuer. Over time, the sensitive feels drained and realizes that things are imbalanced. They will often try to even out the scales and salvage the relationship. Sometimes this is successful, which is the desirable outcome. Oftentimes, it isn’t possible to balance things out. In these cases, the sensitive needs to understand that they aren’t doing anything wrong by pulling away. It is possible to still love and care for someone deeply, even when that person cannot be part of your life on a regular basis, or perhaps not at all.
Sensitives need more time and space than many others do. Due to the intensity of their feelings and the impact of interacting with others (even when it’s good), the sensitive needs time to recharge their batteries a bit before joining the world again. For those less sensitive, this can feel like the sensitive is ignoring them or doesn’t care. The sensitive should to try to explain this at least once or twice. Many people, while they won’t be able to relate, will understand that you genuinely care about them. Some will not understand or care to try, which may lead to an end of the relationship. Sensitives should remember that they didn’t do anything wrong by simply being themselves, and that while they may spend less time with friends than many do, that their levels of compassion and caring make them desirable and worthy of friendship.
Each week, I’ll be posting a video. For the time being, I’m calling the series “Ask Tracy”. The first one was released this past Wednesday on Facebook. In the future, the videos will be posted everywhere, including here, on Wednesday of each week. I’m including this week’s video in this post.
I’m inviting you to submit your questions of a spiritual, metaphysical, or paranormal nature. You can submit them here in comments, on YouTube in the video comments, or on Facebook. Just have them in by Monday night at 11:59 pm Eastern time. The question of the week is selected by random number generator in order to make it fair. I’m looking forward to doing this each week! Here’s the first video:
The energies of this week have been pretty intense. Mercury went retrograde again back on the 17th, the Autumn equinox took place on the 21st, and we are now building up to a super full moon and lunar eclipse on the 27th. People, myself included, are finding themselves finally facing off with old patterns and being given a boost in letting go of things which need to go, and gaining the courage to step into new ways of being.
The forward movement potential, as well as the releasing can feel a little scary for some (because change is a shake up of the expected and normal), as they finally stand up for who they are and give themselves permission to pursue their dreams. Trust me, I understand how unsettling it can be. I find myself fluctuating between happy dancing and wishing to pull my head back into my shell. The changes that we’re being afforded now are not minor…they have the potential of being life altering.
This is going to be a very short post compared to some of the past. I just wanted to come here and let you know that you aren’t alone if you’re feeling a little jangly or even freaked out right now. More importantly, I want to encourage you to keep breathing deeply and reminding yourselves that once everything settles, you’ll be on the road to a life which satisfies you more than ever if you should choose to let go of the old stuff and embrace moving ahead and doing new things in new ways. There may be some casualties when it comes to relationships or old ways of approaching your professional life, but that’s okay. Letting go, closing the door, or walking away makes room for what you’ve been desiring. You may very well decide that you aren’t ready to make such drastic moves, and that’s okay. No matter what, you will be learning something.
If you aren’t feeling anything at all…that’s okay too. This sort of thing isn’t for everyone. Not everyone believes in stuff like this, and I’m not asking you to. No matter what you may be feeling or what your personal viewpoints are, my intention and message for you are the same. I wish you a weekend as stress free as possible, and the strength to be able to handle things with relative ease if and when stress pops up. It just felt right to come here today and let all of you know what was on my mind, how much you matter, and how much I always appreciate your being here.
Welcome! We'll be talking about all sorts of things here. Homey things, creative things, magical things...and everything in between. So make yourself comfortable, pull up a toadstool, and enjoy! All art work on this blog belongs to the artist...please do not copy without permission.