Most of us have had a feeling that someone who we love who has passed was trying to reach us at one point or another. While things like this have become more widely accepted than in the past by many, there is still a lot of uncertainty and even fear around contact from the other side. As someone who has been able to sense, hear and often see people who have passed since I was a young child I have had plenty of time to wrap my head around the idea and learn to let go of my early fears and uncertainty.
For those of you who have wondered if what felt like the presence of a loved one was real or in your imagination, I’m going to share a list of some of the most common ways that they reach out to us. Of course there are more than I’ll be sharing here, but hopefully these will help you to gain a better understanding and a little more confidence and ease when you feel that this is happening.
- Getting a whiff of a familiar scent with no other explanation for it being around. This can be in the form of a favorite cologne or perfume, cigarettes or cigars, breath mints or gum, or favorite flowers. The key is that these aromas are ones which are closely associated with a particular person. For example, my mother will reach out to me by letting me smell her favorite perfume and now, my father shows up with the scent of the gum that he always chewed on Sunday mornings on the way to church.
- Pennies or coins. Many of you have likely heard of pennies from heaven, and I’m here to tell you that this one is true. In the year that my mother passed away, I found three pennies, on separate occasions, in the middle of my bedroom floor with her birth year on them. The first one that I found blew my socks off, then pennies two and three while still amazing, served as more of a source of comfort than anything else. One of them was particularly comforting. I was going through a relationship breakup and was very upset. I’d been crying and went to grab more tissues, and there in my path was one of “her” pennies. While it was always better to have her there to give me one of her awesome hugs when something like this happened, it was wonderful to know that she was still there for me.
- Hearing their favorite song. Sometimes, a departed loved one will inform you of their presence through music. If you ever hear their favorite song just as you’re thinking of them chances are good that they are saying hello. Other times, you will hear their favorite song over and over everywhere you go. You’ll hear it at home as you get ready to go out, then you’ll hear it on in the car and then again over the system in the grocery store or restaurant. I like to think of this as their way of letting us know that they still keep tabs on our lives and what we do.
- Electronics acting up. People on the other side have the ability to use electronics as a way of letting us know that they’re around. Some examples of this are TV’s turning themselves off or on, lights flickering and phone messages. That last one can be a little disconcerting. About a year after my mom passed, my cell phone kept ringing but no number was coming up on the caller ID. As I’m not in the habit of answering calls like this, I tried to ignore it but it kept ringing. I noticed a voicemail had come in but before I could check it, the phone rang again. Annoyed, I answered it only to be greeted by broken static like an old radio that wasn’t quite tuned in right. Later, I checked the voicemail. To my amazement there was the broken static, but also my mother’s voice saying my name and then “it’s me”. I was able to play this message to another person before it was deleted from the phone.
- Physical sensations. This one can also be a little disconcerting when it happens, at least at first. Sometimes when you are thinking of your loved one and really missing them, it can feel as though someone has brushed their hand on your cheek or even given you a hug. More commonly, you may notice a change in the temperature in the air or feel the hairs on the back of your neck respond as they would when you get the feeling of being watched. If you feel uncomfortable with this one, especially at first, you are not alone. The first several times something like this happened to me, I was more than a little freaked out.
Over time, you will learn how to interpret occurrences like this and hopefully feel more comfortable with them. If you feel as though you might have the ability to communicate with those on the other side and could use a little help learning how to work with it, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and we can discuss whether I might be able to help you.
If you’ve had experiences that you’d like to share, feel free to leave a comment. I love hearing your stories!