We all do it. Our minds have a way of giving us the justifications we need to do the things we want to do, or sometimes to survive in situations until we can find a way out. These lies which we convince ourselves are true range from the inconsequential to the life altering.
Here are some examples:
*I’ll eat this chocolate and then skip breakfast or exercise longer tomorrow.
*They didn’t mean what they said, it has just been a bad day for them and I really was sort of stupid to do that.
*I really want that makeup but am short on money. I’ll just take it. What’s one little lipstick going to hurt a big store like this? They gouge people every day with their prices.
I’ve made some justifications in my own life that are real doozies. I’ve also beat myself up over them. Recently I’ve decided to stop punishing myself and just live. This doesn’t mean that I’m giving myself permission to go out and be as bad as I want to in all circumstances. What it does mean is that I am stopping the self judgement.
I know that it might seem weird, but this post is really about acceptance, love, and forgiveness of self and others. What we do in our lives isn’t always going to make sense, but trying to find justification for everything keeps us stuck in cycles of blame and denial. When we are in those cycles, we tend to stay in the same situations. Sometimes we’re going to choose to do things which we know would earn the disapproval of someone else, or even things which we don’t quite feel right about.
What do you think would happen if we just admitted to ourselves that we are doing something either because we want to or we feel as though we have to instead of justifying it?