Most of us have some sort of agenda, which is the way that things are supposed to be I guess. We would hardly be human if we didn’t have goals and preferences. Where do we draw the line though? When do we need to think beyond just getting what we want? As you probably guessed by the title of this post, you probably have a good idea of where I think that line needs to be. The emotions of others should not be secondary to personal wants and desires.
We have all had to make decisions in regards to our actions based upon how it impacts someone else. Of course, there are instances in life in which our own happiness or success might mean that someone else might not reach their own goals. This is true across many areas, from relationships to career. I guess what it comes down to is how we handle those situations. There are ways in which we can reach our own goals without being clueless or careless of someone else.
We can’t all win when it comes to a job opening or who we have a romantic relationship with. In these circumstances, there is only one choice…usually. It’s when we are unethical or dishonest that we have crossed the line and go from competing to toying with someone’s emotions. It is never okay to toy with someone, at least not in my opinion.
If there’s only one job opening…allow your capability to speak for itself. There’s no need to stoop to sabotage or badmouthing of another candidate. In the case of romantic relationships, it can be devastating when someone is dishonest. Whether hedging your bets just in case one interest doesn’t work out, or being less than truthful about being available, someone will inevitably get hurt.
Honesty can be difficult. Whether we are playing games or sincerely just do not wish to hurt someone’s feelings, the truth will come out eventually. Wouldn’t it be best for everyone if we could just think of how it would feel to have done to us what we are thinking of doing to someone else?