Today’s poem is pretty somber in a lot of ways. Life has a way of battering our tender hearts and for some of us, that battering is severe. Yes, each and every one of us has known hardship and heartbreak and I would never try to minimize anyone’s pain. That being said, I think that we can all acknowledge that there are some who have known intense heartache and betrayal before they were old enough to have choices in their lives.
For these people, the deck is almost stacked for even more trauma to come into their lives because they do not have the background to make the right decisions when they are old enough to choose. Also there are people out there who will hone in on those vulnerable souls, taking advantage of their desire (or is it a need?) for love and acceptance. Here’s the positive part of this, and I wanted to make clear that there was one which is why I decided to write a post to go with the poem.
Even after experiencing numerous instances of pain, a person has it within their ability to stop and examine what it is that they can do to break out of the pattern. While it might feel almost impossibly scary for a person in this situation to be alone for a while, it’s what I would recommend. No, not to lock themselves away from all human contact but to not be in a romantic relationship for a while…however long it takes…for them to learn to love and accept themselves. After all, how can we expect another being to show that to us when we do not know it from within?
I would encourage anyone going through this sort of pain to surround themselves with loving friends and family who are supportive. This might mean letting go of some people in their lives though. This might also feel almost impossible, because we want to believe that those who are our family and who we consider to be our friends love us. Sometimes though, these are the very people who are perpetuating the hurt. In addition to supportive friends and family, I encourage people to seek professional counseling as well if they need it. A professional can be an objective, not emotionally invested person with whom we can freely share our stories.
I fully believe that each of us can know love and trust. Sometimes we need extra time and space, and possibly professional assistance to heal. What it all boils down to is that the human heart and spirit are very resilient, and even though there may be permanent scars…hope still flows.
One last piece of advice that I want to share, and while it may make some of you laugh or offend others, I really believe this to be important.