Youthful

Below are a few quotes by some famous people about the quality of youthfulness:

*For some reason I can’t explain, artist and musicians tend to look younger than our age. Being in music, you need this youthful sense of discovery and wonder for what you’re doing and keep your imagination open. That’s a youthful way of looking at life and I think that reflects in how you age. ~Joshua Bell

*The writers who have the deepest influence on one are those one reads in ones more impressionable, early life, and often it is the more youthful works of those writers that leave the deepest imprint. ~J.M. Coetzee

*So curiosity, I think, is a really important aspect of staying young or youthful. ~Goldie Hawn

I have always believed that being youthful is key to our imagination and to manifesting our dreams. The sense of wonder, being impressionable, and curiosity that the above celebrities mentioned are the hallmark traits of youth and successful artists, writers, actors, musicians, scientists, entrepreneurs, etc.

Why? Because these traits keep our minds open and us feeling alive. It is easy to get bogged down with life’s challenges…to let ourselves grow old physically, mentally, and emotionally…believe me I do understand that. Sometimes we feel squashed and suppressed by our lives and even the people in them. Before we know it we can find ourselves doing little more than going through the motions and seeing our world in black and white…all color and vitality sapped out of it.

I’ve worked pretty hard over the past few years to regain a youthful attitude and outlook on life. Before I allowed some hardships in life to drag me under, I had pretty much always been youthful in spirit. Over time though, I sacrificed a lot of that because I was afraid of how I was being received by others…of being seen as an impractical dreamer (I was told that I was over and over again)…of failing to live up to the expectations of others…of being disliked.

Over time, such a feeling of resignation and fear became so embedded in my very core that I found myself utterly lost…not just my sense of direction in life which was also the case…but all of me. What has changed? I finally realized that no matter how much of myself I gave up that it wasn’t going to make my detractors and/or abusers really care…to treat me with love and respect. For a while I didn’t know quite what to do, but then I just simply decided that I no longer care that everyone likes me. Sure, it’s great to have people in our lives who honestly and truly like us, but that is the difference. Those who do, like us as we are. Those who really don’t not only berate us for who we are, they will also turn around and berate us for being who they’ve told us they want us to be too…or at least there will be ever changing demands because it really isn’t about us at all. It took me a long time to learn that it wasn’t.

So what have I done? I’m looking at the world through the eyes of a child again, giving myself permission to be silly and laugh out loud, letting my imagination come back to life, not worrying if anyone else thinks that what I do, say, or believe is acceptable which is not to be confused with not caring. I still care about others just as much, if not more than I ever did. I’ve just learned that I can be myself and be a good person all at the same time…actually that the two go hand in hand. While I may be 41 years old and working through this stuff to figure out where I’m headed, I say it’s better late than never.

Have you been able to hold on to or regain a youthful state of being? If you’ve lost your way, can you think of ways to get it back?

I’ll leave you with this sweet old song/video by Rod Stewart…these are my wishes for all of you. ❀







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18 thoughts on “Youthful

  1. I don't think I ever let that youthful thing go at all. You can tell by the way my house is decorated. It's like a big dorm room. Where my friends have lovely furniture, grownup window coverings and elegant decorations, my house is filled with bits of American pop culture, posters & colours galore. I may be 48 but I'm still 16 inside.

  2. It is absolutely important to have that youthfulness alive inside all of us to be able to enjoy our life just the way that it should be enjoyed. Great that you discovered that soon. Stay happy and healthy always…thanks for the song..I love it πŸ™‚

  3. *sigh* this is something I feel I've lost. It can come out from time to time when with friends and am having a good time. Like little blips. Overall, though, I fear this is something (I've possibly even blogged about) that seems to be elusive now.Partly this is my own self-reflection. It isn't as bad as it was. I noticed it mainly when I was dating someone with a child. We connected strongly, but I felt I wasn't able to tap into that inner-child and play like I always thought I'd be able to. Again, little blips, but nothing consistent. Sadly, one of the regrets I have from that relationship was the inability to play more. Not sure I am explaining this the best, but hopefully you understand hahaKids are full of life and energetic! I wanted to be that along with them, but was more lethargic.I am constantly curious, though πŸ™‚

  4. I'm still pretty young (25) but yes, I do try to remain some youthfulness. I learn a lot from the teens I work with and try to adapt to their enthusiasm and passion for things.

  5. I do understand Jak and it's hard. Also think that while we sometimes feel that we 'should' be able to feel a certain way especially with children that we can't and not because of a fatal error or flaw of our own, but simply because we have grown. We can hold on to a certain degree and even be able to go back to a portion of it, but with growth comes change.

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