Below are a few quotes by some famous people about the quality of youthfulness:
*For some reason I can’t explain, artist and musicians tend to look younger than our age. Being in music, you need this youthful sense of discovery and wonder for what you’re doing and keep your imagination open. That’s a youthful way of looking at life and I think that reflects in how you age. ~Joshua Bell
*The writers who have the deepest influence on one are those one reads in ones more impressionable, early life, and often it is the more youthful works of those writers that leave the deepest imprint. ~J.M. Coetzee
*So curiosity, I think, is a really important aspect of staying young or youthful. ~Goldie Hawn
I have always believed that being youthful is key to our imagination and to manifesting our dreams. The sense of wonder, being impressionable, and curiosity that the above celebrities mentioned are the hallmark traits of youth and successful artists, writers, actors, musicians, scientists, entrepreneurs, etc.
Why? Because these traits keep our minds open and us feeling alive. It is easy to get bogged down with life’s challenges…to let ourselves grow old physically, mentally, and emotionally…believe me I do understand that. Sometimes we feel squashed and suppressed by our lives and even the people in them. Before we know it we can find ourselves doing little more than going through the motions and seeing our world in black and white…all color and vitality sapped out of it.
I’ve worked pretty hard over the past few years to regain a youthful attitude and outlook on life. Before I allowed some hardships in life to drag me under, I had pretty much always been youthful in spirit. Over time though, I sacrificed a lot of that because I was afraid of how I was being received by others…of being seen as an impractical dreamer (I was told that I was over and over again)…of failing to live up to the expectations of others…of being disliked.
Over time, such a feeling of resignation and fear became so embedded in my very core that I found myself utterly lost…not just my sense of direction in life which was also the case…but all of me. What has changed? I finally realized that no matter how much of myself I gave up that it wasn’t going to make my detractors and/or abusers really care…to treat me with love and respect. For a while I didn’t know quite what to do, but then I just simply decided that I no longer care that everyone likes me. Sure, it’s great to have people in our lives who honestly and truly like us, but that is the difference. Those who do, like us as we are. Those who really don’t not only berate us for who we are, they will also turn around and berate us for being who they’ve told us they want us to be too…or at least there will be ever changing demands because it really isn’t about us at all. It took me a long time to learn that it wasn’t.
So what have I done? I’m looking at the world through the eyes of a child again, giving myself permission to be silly and laugh out loud, letting my imagination come back to life, not worrying if anyone else thinks that what I do, say, or believe is acceptable which is not to be confused with not caring. I still care about others just as much, if not more than I ever did. I’ve just learned that I can be myself and be a good person all at the same time…actually that the two go hand in hand. While I may be 41 years old and working through this stuff to figure out where I’m headed, I say it’s better late than never.
Have you been able to hold on to or regain a youthful state of being? If you’ve lost your way, can you think of ways to get it back?
I’ll leave you with this sweet old song/video by Rod Stewart…these are my wishes for all of you. ❤