“Of all the hardships a person had to face, none was more punishing than the simple act of waiting.” ~ Khaled Hosseini
This topic was brought to the front of my mind just this weekend. Sometimes our anticipation of events really is punishing…even when it is a positive one. It’s amazing to me how the feeling of anticipation can feel so close to fear in our bodies that we could easily talk ourselves out of whatever it is that we are anticipating.
My last post talked about having the courage to go for the things we desire in our lives. This one sort of takes that idea further. It’s about following through once we’ve made a decision and those butterflies take up residence in our tummies. Let’s talk for a minute about how the feeling of fear can present itself.
Let’s say that a friend encourages you to sign up for a class about something you’ve always wanted to learn…maybe a foreign language. It’s been what seems like forever since you’ve been in school and you know absolutely nothing of the language which the course will be dealing with. The morning of the class you feel excited, but before you know it your mind starts putting out fear messages.
I have a theory about one reason why this might be. When we are excited about something, some of the events which happen in our bodies are so similar to stress reactions that our minds cannot tell the difference. This could be totally off base, but I really think that there is something to it, especially in some situations. I feel that the more we are in anticipation of something, the more closely our bodies and minds interpret the processes going on internally as something negative.
This is when things could truly snowball out of control if we allowed them to. I’ll admit that I’ve allowed these reactions to stop me in the past…and even came close to allowing it to just this weekend, so please don’t think that I’m being preachy here. I know how nerve wracking it can be to take chances.
What did I do about those feelings? I reminded myself that even if things didn’t go in the way in which I hoped, that it wouldn’t be the end of the world…that at least I would know. In this case, things turned out just as good or even better than I thought so I’m especially glad that I took the risk.
Even though it can feel scary to take chances with new things, we have to remember that our lives will be more filled with regret for having never tried than they are when we try and fail. These past few years have taught me that the more I push through the silly fears which held me back in the past…the easier it gets to take those risks and live a fuller, richer life than ever.
Changing the way that we internally dialogue about things really makes a difference too. The effect of internal dialogue is a fairly detailed area, so maybe it would best be saved for another post…another day.