In this fourth and final installment, I want to discuss things that all of us can do to help ourselves along on the road to healing from the inside. Before I go into that though, I feel the need to say that I do believe that we can become fabulously happy and whole individuals. However, I do not think that it is possible to turn back the hands of time and go back to our state before the tentacles of heartache and disappointment reached out to touch our once pristine selves. There are a few reasons why I believe what I do.
We, as well as our lives in general are always changing and evolving, so even during the good times in which we wish that it could last forever, it simply cannot be. As for the bad times…I always think of the aftermath of them as scar tissue. We have healed over from the trauma but are changed as a result of it. There are several things which we can try to affect which direction those changes are going to take us in. I’ll be talking about a few of them, but keep in mind that each of us is different and that what works for one might not work for another.
For many years, I’ve been a big fan of meditation. I put together a free mini workshop on meditation which you can find by clicking on the workshops tab at the top of the page if you’re interested. There are as many types of meditation as there are people, so this is another one of those things which we have to experiment with until we find the most effective for ourselves. Lately I’ve been trying some guided meditations, but the ones that I’m really loving these days are shamanic drumming type stuff as well as Buddhist Om chants…sometimes with Tibetan singing bowls…sometimes just the chants.
Being out in nature is also an excellent healer, and I am not saying that you have to go out into the middle of the forest. As long as there is open sky, some trees…you get the drift. There’s something about being outdoors which connects us to a deeper part of ourselves. Try it sometime, to whatever extent that you are comfortable with it and see if it doesn’t help you to feel more balanced.
I’m also a big fan of keeping a journal which I admit that until lately I’ve not been regular in doing. It really is a great tool to help us to wade through our emotions and to find solutions, or sometimes to simply just let things go. A journal is a place that we can go to and feel free to say whatever we want to without worrying about making anyone angry or possibly hurting feelings. In addition to writing in a journal, also consider other creative outlets such writing poetry, singing, drawing, painting…any activity in which you feel as though you are working with your emotions as well as your hands. It’s very therapeutic.
Another thing which we can do is to make our surroundings as condusive to our health as possible. We can do this by filling our spaces with live plants, pleasing aromas, music, a fountain, stones etc. Turn your space into a sanctuary as much as possible, even if all that you can claim as your own is a corner of a room in your home.
There are, of course many other things which people do. The important thing is that we just keep trying until we find the one(s) which work for us. Tailor your healing process specifically to your own needs and remember that these needs can and do change over time. Please be gentle and try to keep negative self talk and doubt to as much of a minimum as possible, because there are no right or wrong ways and there certainly isn’t a time limit. Of course, if you are finding it too difficult to try to go through this alone do not be embarrassed or afraid to seek the help of a counselor, mentor, trusted friend, etc. Just be sure to find someone who you can trust and who will respect your individual needs.
One last thing that I wish to recommend is that you remember to have fun with life and take the time to simply experience things without having expectations or trying to plan or hold onto them in any way. When we take our own stuff out of the equation, it can be every bit as healing if not more so at times than feeling as though we have to work so hard at the simple act of living.
Now, I would like to open things up and invite anyone who wants to add something, ask questions, or whatever the case may be so jump right in. Hopefully you’ve enjoyed this series and have found something of use. My goal with all of this has been that it would serve as a starting point for you to explore what you might need to live your best possible life. Thank you for following along.